Abuse Recovery

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crisisgal writes: the worrisome thing with blood in the stool and when to panic is when the stool turns black – coal black.  That means there is bleeding in the digestive tract somewhere.

Unless you’re taking iron supplements.  (Don’t want people to worry unnecessarily.) Gayle

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Thank you all for your responses!! Glad it is helping some of you others here! Susan

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Hi Susan. Blood on the asswipe – its a hemmeroid blowing out.  It’s dark stools – indicating blood on the inside of the tubes – this is dangerous. With your daughter – she has serious control issues – so do you – how else do you think she is learning this stuff other then you modeling it for her. If you want to know what your psychological shit looks like – just look at your daughter.  She is living it out like all children do.  Addictitions come from addictive family systems – not from the drug or the cigarette. The addict will make anything an addiction – like sex for example – but the Republicans are always working on outlawing that. Why take a teadious fearless moral inventory when a scrapgoat and a blame game works much faster. Mechanically speaking – (this depends on the astrology of your daughter – like if she is a earth sign for example – eathing earthy foods are not good for her – peanuts – potatoes – stuff from under the ground) the diet she has is the pits. Also, using a cup water enema just to hold over night in the bowels is helpful to lossen compaction. There are geletin capsules you can get with Green Algee in it – fish food really that is good for humans to eat – and the slime from the dried algee really smooths the stool out – makes it real slippery – but then you get to smell what a fish fart smells like – if they did such things. There is always a down side to everything – the trick seems to be walking in balance. As for the psychological issues of her holding her shit in – then you have to look into a mirror into your own control issues – how you push her to do things as well as your self. Stop pushing is a good idea – let it come in it’s own good time. sumbuddie said dis – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Organization: AOL http://www.aol.com Newsgroups: alt.abuse.recovery My now five year old daughter used to have constipation when she was younger but outgrew it when she was about 3 1/2 to 4 years old. She has a movement at least every other day (sometimes I have to remind her to go). She doesn’t spend a lot of time sitting on the toilet, either. Usually within 5 minutes she is done. She doesn’t push very hard, nor does she say she feels any pain. There have been a couple of times this last week where she had some blood in the stool. Not a lot, but I could see it. When she wiped herself, there was some blood on the toilet paper as well.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -With your daughter – she has serious control issues – so do you – how else do you think she is learning this stuff other then you modeling it for her. If you want to know what your psychological shit looks like – just look at your daughter.  She is living it out like all children do.  Addictitions come from addictive family systems – not from the drug or the cigarette. The addict will make anything an addiction – like sex for example – but the Republicans are always working on outlawing that. Why take a teadious fearless moral inventory when a scrapgoat and a blame game works much faster. Mechanically speaking – (this depends on the astrology of your daughter – like if she is a earth sign for example – eathing earthy foods are not good for her – peanuts – potatoes – stuff from under the ground) the diet she has is the pits. Also, using a cup water enema just to hold over night in the bowels is helpful to lossen compaction. There are geletin capsules you can get with Green Algee in it – fish food really that is good for humans to eat – and the slime from the dried algee really smooths the stool out – makes it real slippery – but then you get to smell what a fish fart smells like – if they did such things. There is always a down side to everything – the trick seems to be walking in balance.

(and the rest of your intelligent hogwash) I just want to say that newsgroups, such as this one, is designed to be a forum for mature adults who have come together to share support and comradeship. It is the people like you who ruin it for others. If you cannot handle being mature enough to offer these positive characteristics, then don’t offer anything. At the least, keep your big mouth shut when you have nothing to say. Susan

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Hey julie, I dont have links & resources, but I have had them.  :-) Yes, incest survivors seem to have more colonitis, spastic colon, etc. I have read it & such while in school & my doc has verified it as her experience, also.  To Susan I do want to clarify that I am not implying in any way that this is the problem w/ your daughter.  Only explaining the reason some of us may have some knowledge concerning this. Julie, I am just plain lazy or I am sure I could give you some references.   Someone else in here at one time gave out some more diligent than I. Do you experience problems, also? I find that there are ways to "manage" the problems.  No caffeine (which I use daily), no alcohol (which I have unfortunately relapsed & am using almost daily), less spicy foods (Mexican is my favorite), no nicotine (I smoke at least a pack a day), excercise (I am not running my 2 miles a day nor lifting weights), eating bran daily (yippee-this one I do)  , limiting stress  (hahahahhahahahahahaha). Now I am not a good example which is very very obvious.  :-) Sorry I feel I have been quite cynical. polly wog

hi polly,

Susan, Sorry, but I had to laugh here.  Not at your child or her problem.  I have been away from the ng for some weeks & thought you must be someone who had come in the interim that I didnt know.  I was doing my best to just sit back & let saome of the parents comment. I know, may not seem funny, but it isnt the usual around here.  :-) I hope you can find a solution for your daughter. As a survivor this topic is not something I am ignorant about. Are there connections? I have heard that intestines are linked to emotions, I’d like to find out more info on this if anyone has any links or resources they could refer me to. julie I sometimes (should always) eat some form of bran daily & apple juice is helpful for me.  Daily excercise is also important.  And a restroom that feels safe & private & relaxing.  I fear I will have some comments from the ng by saying the last one.  But I am being serious. Also, not making it a big deal could be important.  You know all the stuff about how those bodily functions & the problems in our emotional lives that can evolve around it. Well I am gonna hush up now. polly wog

Please excuse my complete ignorance and please, please accept my sincere apologizes for putting this message on this group. I meant to email a parenting group. Geez, talk about abuse. So sorry. Susan and the greatest of these is love and the greatest of these is love

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Susan, Sorry, but I had to laugh here.  Not at your child or her problem.  I have been away from the ng for some weeks & thought you must be someone who had come in the interim that I didnt know.  I was doing my best to just sit back & let saome of the parents comment.   I know, may not seem funny, but it isnt the usual around here.  :-) I hope you can find a solution for your daughter.   As a survivor this topic is not something I am ignorant about.  I sometimes (should always) eat some form of bran daily & apple juice is helpful for me.  Daily excercise is also important.  And a restroom that feels safe & private & relaxing.  I fear I will have some comments from the ng by saying the last one.  But I am being serious. Also, not making it a big deal could be important.  You know all the stuff about how those bodily functions & the problems in our emotional lives that can evolve around it. Well I am gonna hush up now. polly wog

Please excuse my complete ignorance and please, please accept my sincere apologizes for putting this message on this group. I meant to email a parenting group. Geez, talk about abuse. So sorry. Susan and the greatest of these is love

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My now five year old daughter used to have constipation when she was younger but outgrew it when she was about 3 1/2 to 4 years old. She has a movement at least every other day (sometimes I have to remind her to go). She doesn’t spend a lot of time sitting on the toilet, either. Usually within 5 minutes she is done. She doesn’t push very hard, nor does she say she feels any pain. There have been a couple of times this last week where she had some blood in the stool. Not a lot, but I could see it. When she wiped herself, there was some blood on the toilet paper as well. I am calling the pediatrician (she just had a physical done two weeks ago, which included a complete CBC, because her iron count came back abnormal. The CBC came back normal, and it was concluded that the initial test, done in the dr’s office, was incorrect) but am wondering if this ever happened to your child and what could it be from. My daughter does drink fluids during the day, plus I try to get her to drink a big glass of water during the day. Her diet is filled with vegetables and fruits. I am now thinking to myself that perhaps she doesn’t drink enough during the day. She drinks a little juice with breakfast, then has a drink with lunch. During the afternoon I get her to drink a big 8-oz glass of water, then she has milk with dinner. Could it be she is not drinking enough?But if she wasn’t, wouldn’t her movement be very hard and cause her pain? Thanks for any comments. Susan

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Please excuse my complete ignorance and please, please accept my sincere apologizes for putting this message on this group. I meant to email a parenting group. Geez, talk about abuse. So sorry. Susan

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hi polly, Susan, Sorry, but I had to laugh here.  Not at your child or her problem.  I have been away from the ng for some weeks & thought you must be someone who had come in the interim that I didnt know.  I was doing my best to just sit back & let saome of the parents comment. I know, may not seem funny, but it isnt the usual around here.  :-) I hope you can find a solution for your daughter. As a survivor this topic is not something I am ignorant about.

Are there connections? I have heard that intestines are linked to emotions, I’d like to find out more info on this if anyone has any links or resources they could refer me to. julie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I sometimes (should always) eat some form of bran daily & apple juice is helpful for me.  Daily excercise is also important.  And a restroom that feels safe & private & relaxing.  I fear I will have some comments from the ng by saying the last one.  But I am being serious. Also, not making it a big deal could be important.  You know all the stuff about how those bodily functions & the problems in our emotional lives that can evolve around it. Well I am gonna hush up now. polly wog Please excuse my complete ignorance and please, please accept my sincere apologizes for putting this message on this group. I meant to email a parenting group. Geez, talk about abuse. So sorry. Susan and the greatest of these is love

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