Abuse Recovery

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I agree.  It is not fair.  But I think if you look at it as taking back control of your life.  Of being the one in the driver’s seat.  You are deciding how you want your life to be… where it should be going instead of sitting back and letting others do the driving, make the decisions on where to turn and making mistakes from reading the map.  I don’t know if that helps you with the fairness thing.  Also I think that attitude is healthy. It is better than feeling you deserved it…a lot of us go through that also.  (I didn’t deserve any better)  Nice chatting with you, Brina. E – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -I wish I didn’t have to start recovery at all, I don’t think that it is fair, all these people did these things to me, and I am the one in counseling!

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Thanks Eileen, I am really glad that I put that post up, I have gotton alot of responses from it. I wish I didn’t have to start recovery at all, I don’t think that it is fair, all these people did these things to me, and I am the one in counseling! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hello Sabrina.  I’m replying through the responses.  Didn’t see the original post. I think it is wonderful that you are starting your recovery. I began mine at around age 44 so I kind of envy you.  I have some sexual abuse but it didn’t start until I was 13 or so and not by people close, like family, or anything like that.  But it did label who and what I was in my mind. Growing up I had a lot of verbal, emotional abuse and belittling so no self esteem.  Think that made me a prime candidate for the rest.  Good luck with your path to recovery..it is a long, rocky road but many tell me it is well worth it.  My only advice or comment would be that as long as you are honest with yourself about yourself you will make headway.  So many people are in denial about their weaknesses, their strengths, too; makes it harder to peel away the outer shells we’ve built to protect ourselves. Keep talking about the abuse…it helps and it eventually has less control over you and your life. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers…   E My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

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I AM SCARED OF RECOVERY, I KNOW THAT IT SOUNDS STUPID, BUT I AM SCARED OF ALOT OF THINGS, I DON’T KNOW WHO TO TALK TO, I USE TO TALK TO MY PASTORS WIFE, BUT NOW, I HARDLY EVEN TALK TO HER, I DON’T KNOW WHO TO TRUST – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

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Hello Sabrina.  I’m replying through the responses.  Didn’t see the original post. I think it is wonderful that you are starting your recovery. I began mine at around age 44 so I kind of envy you.  I have some sexual abuse but it didn’t start until I was 13 or so and not by people close, like family, or anything like that.  But it did label who and what I was in my mind. Growing up I had a lot of verbal, emotional abuse and belittling so no self esteem.  Think that made me a prime candidate for the rest.  Good luck with your path to recovery..it is a long, rocky road but many tell me it is well worth it.  My only advice or comment would be that as long as you are honest with yourself about yourself you will make headway.  So many people are in denial about their weaknesses, their strengths, too; makes it harder to peel away the outer shells we’ve built to protect ourselves. Keep talking about the abuse…it helps and it eventually has less control over you and your life. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers…   E – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

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Hi special k, I am glad you look forward to them and value them.  I guess what I am looking for is people to reply to them. Romana Feeling lonely. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I see all your posts Not only see them, but I look forward to reading them. Don’t be so hard on yourself… I value your opinions and thoughts. special k Nice to know people see my posts. romana Hi Sabrina,

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THANK YOU I HAVEN’T BEEN ONLINE TO CHECK POSTS SORRY IT HAS TAKEN SO LONG I LOOK FORWARD TO TALKING WITH YOU – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Nice to know people see my posts. romana Hi Sabrina, I didn’t see your original post, just Romana’s reply, but I wanted to say hi and welcome to aar.

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Yolanda / Sabrina:  You have found another person to vote here, I too have been  abused starting age 4 or 5 and continuing until my 18th birthday when he locked me out. I am now 42, a veteran of two marriages. I have just been putting it off for so long.  If you need someone to talk to E-Mail me Gienie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –         You will find lots of friends here.  We know were you are coming from!  My abuse started around the age of 4 or 5.  Stoped at the age 14.  Did not start recovery till i was 30.  Glade you did not wait that long!!         Yes it is a long scary road.  But it is worth it.  Good luck and if you want to talk i am her!             Yolanda My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

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            I to spent a long time running!  Went threw a few marriages.  And used drugs to escape from the pain.  Now i do no drugs.  I think the hardest thing that i have ever done was when i really started my recovery!  And i do not think that it is over yet!  Every time that i think that i have!  I find something else that i need to work on.  But i sure feel a lot better now!!!!             Yolanda – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Yolanda / Sabrina:  You have found another person to vote here, I too have been  abused starting age 4 or 5 and continuing until my 18th birthday when he locked me out. I am now 42, a veteran of two marriages. I have just been putting it off for so long.  If you need someone to talk to E-Mail me Gienie         You will find lots of friends here.  We know were you are coming from!  My abuse started around the age of 4 or 5.  Stoped at the age 14.  Did not start recovery till i was 30.  Glade you did not wait that long!!         Yes it is a long scary road.  But it is worth it.  Good luck and if you want to talk i am her!             Yolanda My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

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        You will find lots of friends here.  We know were you are coming from!  My abuse started around the age of 4 or 5.  Stoped at the age 14.  Did not start recovery till i was 30.  Glade you did not wait that long!!         Yes it is a long scary road.  But it is worth it.  Good luck and if you want to talk i am her!             Yolanda – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

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Hi Sabrina, I will be happy to talk to you and be your friend.  I am also a survivor and on the road of healing.  I know it is scary, but it is worth it.  Things do get better. Romana – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

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Nice to know people see my posts. romana – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi Sabrina, I didn’t see your original post, just Romana’s reply, but I wanted to say hi and welcome to aar.

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My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

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My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

Well, we all have our demons…which you’ll find out after some time of being here.  But you’ve made a good first step.  You’ll find a lot of support here and people who understand what you’re going through.  Sometimes understanding is the sweetest thing in the world.  It doesn’t have to be lonely.  Let me be the first to welcome to the group and wish you good luck.  You can visit my web site for some links to some useful info about child abuse and so forth that may be able to help you on your way (including my story). http://members.aol.com/PudlLustn/abuse.html. Joanna (PudlLustn) …and someday, The Army will stand atop a mountain, looking down at the world they conquered….finally healed….

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Hello Sabrina.  My name is Ellie.  I too am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.  I am glad you found this group and very sorry that you needed to.  It always breaks my heart to know that there are still children in the world being abused.  If you would like to talk about anything at all, feel free to do so either in the group or privately by email.  I hope you find healing and peace here. Ellies… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My name is Sabrina and I am looking for friends that I can talk to, that have been through or is going through what I am.  I have been sexually abused since around the age of five (I am 21 now)  I am just now starting the road to recovery and I am pretty scared.  I also have self-distructive habits also. If you would like to talk with me, please respond to this. Thanks

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