If you surrender to your sadness in times of loneliness and look inward you might find there is a sustaining presence of love and peace deep inside of you.
If you have been through abuse you might find that you are isolated and maybe even unsure whether your capacity for relationship is intact. My situation earlier this year felt hopeless. I felt trapped with no way out and was depressed but after surrendering to my life circumstances and looking inwards, I found that there was something underneath it all that felt alive and sustaining. Perhaps this is the Self, or the Higher Power or maybe even God. I had never been religious before but now I wonder.
I only found this other worldly feeling of peace through loneliness. I love this poem by Hafiz translated by Daniel Ladinsky which seems to talk about this
Don’t surrender your loneliness
Let it cut more deep.
Let it ferment and season you
As few human
Or even divine ingredients can.
Something missing in my heart tonight
Has made my eyes soft
My need of God
Have you ever experienced something like this yourself? I would love to hear about it.